If one were to search for the definition of home on the internet they would find quite a few definitions out there, some talking about family units, others talking about sports, and then there are those talking about places of comfort. On Merriam-Webster Online alone there are six different definitions on how to define home. The best definition of home is: “a familiar or usual setting”4. Meaning, a place that is quite familiar and comfortable to someone or maybe somewhere that they usually go to. I don’t believe that home has to be confined to just one place at all. Home could be a house, apartment, or wherever a person sleeps at. It could also be a place as big as the wilderness or as small a coffee shop or friends house. I think saying that “home is where the heart is”1 is a very restricting statement, to say that someone’s home is where their heart feels the most love is to restrict their home down to one single place and not allow them to be a individual. If this love were to die then where would they be, according to this definition of home they would be lost and homeless because they wouldn’t have love. Looking at this quote and the definition “homelessness” the population of the “homeless” would be significantly increased due to the ending of relationships. To view though the actual definition of home and the definition of “homelessness”, the “homeless” population would significantly decrease. Those people previously viewed as “homeless” would not be considered homeless anymore. The reason being they are usually on a street corner or under the bridge that they are familiar with, it’s their home. Has this definition stayed the same throughout history though?
Prior to the 1950’s the individualism of both men and women had been growing because of the passing of the 19th Amendment. With this freedom of individualism women and men were both able to explore out of the house and base their home in other places than there. As the 1950’s began, the values and views of the relationship between women and men began to change once again. Due to zoning laws and the invention of transportation the construction of suburbs became possible within the United States. The construction of suburbia’s was the destruction of the independence of women. When houses were within the inner city it was easier for women to be independent and go out when they pleased. As the houses moved to the outer city they formed a restriction on women. The reason suburbs were so popular was due to the affordable nature of the house itself. The reason they were so affordable was they were made of cheaper housing materials and each house was an exact replica of the original so they were able to mass produce the parts to the house making it cheaper. Since the house was more affordable for families only the men had to continue to work the women were once again put to work at the house, destroying their individualism and making them just as cookie cutter as the house they resided in. With this deconstruction of individualism the definition of home once again brought the definition of home back towards the idea of “home is where the heart is”1. Even though the novel was written in 1972 author Ira Levin does a good job of depicting this exact transformation from the change of inner city to suburb in the novel The Stepford Wives. In this book Joanna, her husband Walter, and their two children Pete and Kim move from the inner city of New York to the Connecticut suburb of Stepford. The transformation of the individual women to the suburban housewife can be seen on the first page of the book. As the author describes the woman who welcomes Joanna and her family to Stepford the feeling I get is of this woman who has lost all that she knows except for this one little job. The author describes her as “The Welcome Wagon lady, sixty if she was day but working at youth and vivacity (ginger hair, red lips, a sunshine-yellow sundress), twinkled her eyes and teeth at Joanna”5…”Her brown leather shoulder bag was enormous, old and scuffed; from it she dealt Joanna packets of powdered breakfast drink and soup mix, a toy-size box of non-polluting detergent, a booklet of discount slips good at twenty-two local shops, two cakes of soap, a folder of deodorant pads---“5. This description also is a good depiction of the stripping of Joanna’s independence and freedom. As the woman hands her all these objects that she will need when taking care of her family, her independence is stripped and condensed into a hand full of house care products. This same stripping of independence into the model house wife can be seen in the short story Captive Audience written by Ann Warren Griffith. The mother in the story Mavis takes her son Billy and her daughter Kitty to the grocery store so Kitty can pick out a new cereal. As the girl finds the cereal she wants,
“She held the box close to her mother's ear. ‘Listen to it, Mom, isn't it swell!’ , Mavis heard a shattering command, ‘FORWARD, MARCH!’ and then what sounded like a thousand marching men. ‘Crunch, crunch, crunch, crunch,’ they were shouting in unison, above the noise of their marching feet, and a male chorus was singing something about Crunchies were marching to your breakfast table, right into your cereal bowl. Suddenly inexplicably, Mavis felt she couldn't stand this every morning. ‘No, Kitty,’ she said, rather harshly, ‘you can't have that one. I won't have all that marching and shouting at breakfast!" Kitty's pretty face turned to a thundercloud, and tears sprang into her eyes. ‘I'll tell Daddy what you said! I'll tell Daddy what you said! I'll tell Daddy if you don't let me have it!’ Mavis came to her senses as quickly as she had taken leave of them. ‘I'm sorry, dear, I don't know what came over me. Of course you can have it. It's a very nice one. Now let's hurry on home so we can give you your permanent before Grandmother comes.’”6
Mavis’s choice of independent thought has been totally erased, she must now do whatever it is that makes her children happy and she can never go against her husband. Independence wasn’t lost for long though.
As the decade ended and moved into the 1960’s and then into the 1970’s once again the definition of home began to change from “home is where the heart is”1 to the actual definition of “a familiar or usual setting”4. At the start of the 1960’s the Second Wave of Feminism sprouted up. This movement was also known by a couple other names, the most fitting name is the Women’s Liberation Movement because that’s what they really had to accomplish to free women from the suburban home life. Two of the most important issues this movement fought for dealt with family and the workplace. The reason these topics are so important because as the women gain leeway and independence once again they will face opposition getting out of the house and back into the workplace. As the Women’s Liberation Movement progressed through the decades they made a lot of headway gaining their independence once again and establishing a home outside of their house. This can be seen quite a bit in the book The Crying of Lot 49 by Thomas Pynchon. This novel is about a woman named Oedipa Maas, she is made the executor of the estate of her ex boyfriend who has recently died. As she leaves her house to deal with a sort out this estate she finds home in the adventures that she encounters. As she moves through trying to figure out this conspiracy she is never in one place for very long but she does find the routine familiar. This can be seen when she is sent to deliver some letter to the W.A.S.T.E. system. As she waits to see how the system works “Oedipa settled back in the shadow of a column. She may have dozed off.”8… “She went over and dropped in the sailor’s letter to Fresno; then hid again and waited.”8 Even though she has never lived in this place for a long while, the familiarity of trying to figure out this conspiracy has made everywhere it takes her, her new home. Another good example of home changing to a familiar place from the novel The Crying of Lot 49 is the way the Oedipa’s husband changes after she leaves to figure out the estate. When she finally comes back to see him “Mucho came downstairs carrying his copy, a serenity about him she’d never seen. He used to hunch his shoulders and have a rapid eye blink rate, and both were now gone.”9 It is later mentioned that he has started to take LSD but the combination of this and the stress release of Oedipa leaving has made him find home within his mind. He went from finding home within his house to his mind, somewhere that is the most familiar to him. What about now?
Through the 90’s and into the present, the definition of home hasn’t changed. I would even say it has become more prominent that home is a familiar setting to someone, not just their house. The ideal of “home is where the heart is”1 is based on the setting of a nuclear family. Nuclear is defined by Merriam-Webster as: “a family group that consists only of father, mother, and children”10 this ideal has definitely been lost throughout the last fifty years. According to the Forest institute of Psychology in Springfield, Missouri 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce.11 This just goes to show that the possibility of a nuclear family to function in this day and age is slim to none. For someone to be restricted to one place their house for the rest of their life has become seemingly preposterous, people need their independence and the ability to travel and find other places that become their home outside of their house. Everyone also needs a house to come back to though, which are the ideals and values of Habitat for Humanity. In their mission statement they say “Habitat works in partnership with people in need to build and renovate decent, affordable housing. The houses then are sold to those in need, Habitat's partner families, at no profit and with no interest charged. Partner families invest hundreds of hours of their own labor -- sweat equity -- into building their homes and the homes of others. Their mortgage payments go into a revolving Fund for Humanity that is used to build more houses.”12 They aren’t building homes they are building houses. They really just want to provide people with a place to stay after they come off the street from their adventures of finding home.
Fall Out Boy definitely had it right when they said “If home is where the heart is then we’re all just fucked”3. To put everything into one place or one person is to restrict oneself to the point where they really don’t know what is out there for them. People are realizing that they need to be individuals, they need to find where their home is not get sucked into the home of another. To do that is to fall back into the trend of the 1950’s where houses were the home and no one was really individual they all seemed to be the same, robots. To have a familiar setting that causes peace or serenity though is what home really is. For me, I know my home isn’t my house, quite the opposite actually. My house is a place I would like to spend the least amount of time possible. The place I call home are the slopes of Crystal Mountain, a place where I feel completely at peace, a setting that is very familiar to me. My home is out there, where is yours?
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